When you talk to someone you’ve just met, they don’t care about you. That’s just reality. But if you want to learn more about them and what they want, this isn’t a downside. It’s an opportunity.
People love attention. It is one of your lesser known and more valuable resources. When you direct your full attention towards what somebody is saying, they pick up on it and feel a subconscious hit of reward chemical. They like you more.
Picture yourself in a situation where you’re getting to know someone. Your instinct is to comment on what they say and inject your own thoughts into the conversation. There is a time and place for that. But if you want to, you can suspend your ego, ask the person questions, and mostly listen. Offer validation where you can.
People flock to someone who is good at this. If you’re interested in learning these skills, with practice exercises, go look up former FBI agent Robin Dreeke on Amazon.