Avoiding your love is a real easy process. Some people manage to do it for decades on end. The reason they avoid it is simple:
They are scared of it. They imagine it will not work out well and believe doing it will lead to pain. Afterwards, their mind will hallucinate reasons why doing this thing is impossible. And removing the reasons that seem to bar their path won’t bring them any closer to action.
If you don’t believe me, try kicking down a few of those reasons. Make their reasons seem irrational, nonsensical. Handle the first one and they will throw a second one at you. As you go on and on, they will become increasingly upset or angry. Like clockwork.
Pain is a natural outcome of something you care about going poorly. It hurts. For those of us who know how to use pain, like jiu jitsu in the mind, that is great news! But this article isn’t about that. It’s about how to avoid that shit all together. So let’s get on to avoiding your love.
- Focus on what you have to give up in order to get the thing you’re after. Tell yourself the stuff you have to give up is important. After all, you thought of this stuff. It was your thought, so it must be good.
- Visualize a strong negative outcome from whatever action you want to do. Don’t stop to ask, “Could this go a different way?” or, “If this went great, what would that look like?”
- When you come across something you fear happening, divert your attention to something else, like celebrity news. Don’t embrace fear as a tool to show you where you can improve. If you had room to improve, that would mean you aren’t the greatest at whatever it is you’re thinking of right now.
I successfully avoided doing something I love for more than a decade. By now I am an expert at avoiding what I love. I could teach a seminar about avoiding it.
By the way, if you want to keep avoiding the things you would love to do, do not read Gorilla Mindset.